I recently arrived to Esalen – a retreat centre in Big Sur. I’ll be here for 5 weeks on a work-study program. It is a great opportunity to experience being in community and learn by doing. The setting is beautiful coastal California.
In the application process I was asked to indicate my preference for the work I would do during my stay. There were options like kitchen, housekeeping, garden, etc. I like to cook and thought it could be interesting to learn how to cook for larger numbers of people. I’d get new recipes as well. All good. So I had indicated a preference for the kitchen.
I arrived to find out I had been placed with “Cabins”. I was bummed. I felt unacknowledged. I had indicated a preference hadn’t I? Why had it been disregarded? And “cabins”? What the hell was that? I could see myself vacuuming rooms and cleaning toilettes for the next 5 weeks. No thanks!
I could feel the negative vibes creeping in. Time for a check-in. First I had to remind myself that they had never committed to honoring my preference. It was just that – a preference – which implies that other things are possible too. In addition, as a community, we are all contributing to the well-being of each other in anything we do – in any way, time place, we show up. There is no unimportant work here (or anywhere else for that matter).
Then I learned about Cabins. This means things like cleaning the guest rooms, tidying up meeting rooms, laundry, etc. It means you travel back and forth across the property. I heard movement in that. It also involves cleaning the thermal pools here on the grounds. Outside, gorgeous, incredible view pools. So the work also involves both inside and outside work. I was hearing variety and I was loving the idea of being able to do some of my work outside while being surrounded by beauty. Added bonus – I’ve learned how to effectively fold fitted sheets!
So now ironically I’m doing what I didn’t want to do – yes I’m vacuuming and cleaning toilettes – and I’m loving it. I feel blessed – as if I’ve been gifted the best department to work in.
Did I get what I want? On the surface no. I didn’t get “Kitchens”. Digging a little deeper, I came to this place with an intention for movement. For finding more ways to be in nature with my work. For getting out of my comfort zone. I believe I am receiving that in spades in my Cabins assignment. Thank you universe! A reminder for me to trust that sometimes we don’t get exactly what we want or at least sometimes it comes in a package we can’t even imagine.
So I invite you to launch your desires to the universe and add “…this or something better”. Who knows what might show-up. It might be more than you could possibly imagine.